The days of roses and chocolates are over. They want and deserve more attention and heartfelt gestures so they know just how into them we are.
Not sure what these might be? Read on for a run-down of some of the biggest turn ons for girls.
15 Biggest Turn Ons for Girls
Women want a guy that is comfortable in his own skin. If he’s always looking to her for reassurance and validation, it can be a major turn-off. Maeve* recently had dinner with a man that repeatedly asked her if his own choices of food and drink were acceptable. “By the end of the evening I felt like his mum, not his date,” she commented. Don’t go out of your way to be an ego-maniac, but let her know that you have confidence in who you are and what you have to offer.
2. Sense of Humor
No one likes an uptight sod. For girls, it can be a complete turn-off. Don’t fake it, but let your own sense of humour – whatever it might be – shine through. Being too serious and uptight makes for a lot of one-off dates that probably won’t be returning your texts. On the other hand, try to refrain from excessive raunchiness and vulgar, sexist comments. You might be able to get away with that around your mates, but a woman is very unlikely to find it as amusing as the guys might.
3. Good Hygiene
For the love of God, shower regularly and brush your teeth. There is nothing that will make a girl run in the other direction more quickly than a guy that stinks and has breath that could melt metal.
It’s a sign of respect to not only her, but yourself, as well. It will show her you take pride in being seen with her and putting your best foot forward when out and about with her.
4. Know the right way to touch
You’ve managed to not offend her or chase her off and you’re moving onto the second date. Groping and grabbing are a definite no-no at this point.
That can come later when you’re more familiar with one another. Instead, consider gentlemanly gestures like taking her hand in yours as you walk down the street; gently placing your hand at the small of her back as you navigate through a crowded room; wrapping your arm around her shoulders.
These may seem like kid stuff, but they will go a long way toward making her feel really special, rather than used.
5. Allow her to pick the restaurant or venue
If you chose the last spot you went out to, let her choose the next. This will show her that you respect her as a person and value her decisions and opinions. (NOTE: This is a good time to take notice of the things she orders – remembering her favorite wine or cocktail can come in handy if you continue to see her.)
6. Compliment her
Take note of something she’s done, whether it be fixing her hair a certain way or wearing a beautiful dress, and then compliment her on it. Don’t go overboard, but let her know you’ve noticed and think she’s beautiful.
7. Kiss her with finesse
Assuming you didn’t try to ram your tongue down her throat on the first date and make her bolt, kiss her – as long as she’s willing. Don’t overdo it, but kiss her with confidence (there’s that “c” word again!). A kiss can convey a lot of information, so don’t blow it. Slobber, too much tongue – all of that stuff will probably have her rethinking going out with you again.
8. Public Displays of Affection
You’ve managed to keep her interested to this point. She’s into you, and vice versa. If she’s the kind of girl that enjoys physical closeness, moderate PDA will take your relationship to a whole new level. Go with it – she may be even more into it than you could have guessed.
9. Pamper and Spoil
A little pampering can go a long way toward putting you in a favorable light with your lady. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to pamper and spoil her properly – even a luxurious foot rub and her favorite bottle of wine will win you some serious points without denting your wallet.
10. Make her feel loved and safe
The foundation for any good relationship, whether it ends up being short or long-term is feeling comfortable and safe with your partner. Make sure you convey how much you cherish her and want her in your life. Provide a safe and welcoming presence where she can be herself and let down.
11. Understand that foreplay and after play are important
Assuming your relationship has advanced from flirting with her to more intimate levels, you’re going to need to step up your game. To keep a woman from feeling used or unsatisfied, foreplay is incredibly important.
Almost equally important is after-play. If you make it to the finish line then roll over and start snoring immediately, she’s probably not going to be as eager to hit the sheets the next time around.
12. Pleasure above performance
If you’re having a good time, make sure she is, too. Women typically don’t rate their lovers on their performance in bed – they want to experience pleasure alongside their partners. So take the time to make sure she’s enjoying herself as much as you are, and you’re golden.
13. Change it up
When it comes to bedroom activities, variety is definitely the spice of life. Don’t get freaky on her (unless she’s into that, too), but be creative. Suggest a new position, start out with a full body massage – make it new and interesting to keep her intrigued.
14. Sexy talk
Believe it or not, many women really love it when you talk a little dirty to them. It doesn’t have to be vulgar, but making a woman feel desired will only help to spark her ongoing interest in you.
15. Be yourself
It may sound trite, but it’s true. The biggest turn-on for girls is to know that you feel comfortable around and trust her enough to let her see you, flaws and assets alike.